(This post is part of the ‘Guide to the Young Patriarch.’ The current draft of the Guide can be found here.)
I know this headline might be offensive (oh noooes), but I want to reassure you and begin this post by offering the following apology for choosing this headline.
An apology for the people offended by the headline
If this makes you feel bad it is probably because you’re a slut yourself and really don’t deserves to ever be loved. You are just a worthless piece of meat, so basically go fuck yourself (oh… you’re already doing that).
End of apology
After this heartfelt apology, let’s get back to the subject at hand. First, I want to clarify what I mean by love. I don’t mean sex-in-the-city cock carousal (as a cock or a rider) and it’s not a PUA gaming a girls for a ONS. When I’m talking about love I mean the real deal, a life-long strong bond between a man and a woman, being faithful and dedicated to each other, raising children and making a family, etc…
As a man, when you choose somebody to love, you need to be aware that everything might (and commonly do) explode in your face and the feminist family court system would make you into a slave for your ex-wife, you might lose control of your money and have a limited access to your children, and many other horror stories. (BTW, my own father went to prison, lost his shop and was homeless for a while after the divorce. These are not just crazy manosphere stories.)
As a man, you need to minimize this risk as much as possible.
Men have an innate emotional revulsion from bonding with promiscuous women. The feminist society today just pressures men to marry sluts, otherwise, you just might be labeled primitive/small dick/any other feminist shaming technique. But the revulsion in your guts is right, men have intuition as well, sluts don’t deserve to be loved, sexually experienced women are only good for sexual experiences, they don’t worth the risks to have any emotional bonds with.
Look at the following data:
1. From Divorce and Sexual Risk Among U.S. Women: Findings from the National Survey of Family Growth
Quote “Overall, 13.1% of the women were currently divorced or separated, 62.1% were currently married, 8.3% were cohabitating, and 16.4% were never married. Divorced/separated women were more likely to report 5 or more lifetime sex partners and 2 or more sex partners in the past year than never married women. They were less likely to report condom use.”
Conclusion – More than 5 sexual partners for a woman significantly reduces her likelihood to form a stable married.
2. Teachman, J. (2003), Premarital Sex, Premarital Cohabitation, and the Risk of Subsequent Marital Dissolution Among Women. Journal of Marriage and Family, 65: 444–455. doi: 10.1111/j.1741-3737.2003.00444.x
Quote – “Using nationally representative data from the 1995 National Survey of Family Growth, I estimate the association between intimate premarital relationships (premarital sex and premarital cohabitation) and subsequent marital dissolution. I extend previous research by considering relationship histories pertaining to both premarital sex and premarital cohabitation. I find that premarital sex or premarital cohabitation that is limited to a woman’s husband is not associated with an elevated risk of marital disruption. However, women who have more than one intimate premarital relationship have an increased risk of marital dissolution. These results suggest that neither premarital sex nor premarital cohabitation by itself indicate either preexisting characteristics or subsequent relationship environments that weaken marriages. Indeed, the findings are consistent with the notion that premarital sex and cohabitation limited to one’s future spouse has become part of the normal courtship process for marriage.”
Conclusion – The more sexual partners a woman have before the wedding the greater is the risk for a divorce
3. From http://inductivist.blogspot.com/2011/01/premarital-sex-predicts-lower-quality.html
(link is to the summary of a research, not the article itself)
Quote – “Now we the same kind of phenomenon with sexual intercourse. According to this study of 2,035 married people, waiting until after the wedding to have sex the first time is associated with greater subsequent communication, sexual quality, marital satisfaction, and perceived stability–see the above table for means. This was found after controlling for religiosity, race, income, education, and length of relationship.”
Conclusion - Premarital sex predicts a lower quality marriage
Quote – “Results indicate that for every additional premarital sexual partner an individual has, not including the marital sexual partner, the likelihood that they will say their current marital sexual relationship is extremely satisfying versus only being moderately satisfying goes down 3.9%. Additionally, when running models separately for males and females, the male model was more significant at 5.3%.”
Conclusion - More premarital sex partners reduce the quality of the marriage (for men too BTW)
Sluts don’t deserve to be loved, the risks are too great compared with the benefits. Men should avoid using sluts for anything but sex without emotional connection. If she had more than 5 sexual partners, move on.